Good evening! This is Shelly Davidson and it’s time for my regular blog spot here at Authors Speak. First, I want to thank Lou for asking me to post monthly.
So far, I have written about Changes and Independence (Day). This month, I think I’d like to focus more on Drama.
Oh, come on. We all see it. Spend a few precious moments on Facebook and you will be inundated with drama. Particularly from writers. We do love a good drama. I mean, it’s our life’s blood, right? And many of us writers are active in the gay community and boy, talk about drama! I say this with the deepest respect. I love the drama but when can a little drama become too much?
We all have our friends lists. As authors, we probably also have our fan base (boy, that sounds weird to say!). Many of us have one page for our personal stuff and another for our business. Our readers don’t want to see pictures of our children doing goofy things and I know my straight, homophobic brother doesn’t want to see some of my pictorial inspirations for my writing.
Sometimes, though, the pages’ mix. People say things, others respond emotionally and not necessarily professionally and tempers flare. Reading through posts of others I have on my lists, I’m amazed at how quickly something can escalate and really become an issue. I’ve seen people hurt by personal comments or things taken out of text. I’ve seen people needing to take a Facebook break, just to separate themselves from the drama. I’ve seen people post truly personal things that honestly, I really didn’t need to know about.
I suppose my point is that you need to keep an eye on the whole picture, not one string of words. You need to remember how much that person or people really know about you or are they just people on your list. Remember who your audience is, whether you are on your personal site or your author site. Remember that words can hurt. You don’t have the addition of facial expressions or voice inflections to help with your intended message and just simple words can be dangerous. Watch your tone. The last thing anyone wants to do is to offend someone accidentally (and if your intent is to offend or hurt, stop reading now! You won’t understand).
Some people have way too much time on their hands. Some people just like to start trouble. And then there are those that believe everything they read and act on it rather than knowing the facts. If you have someone posting on your page who offends you, block them. Or call them on it. But most of all, don’t let it ruin you! So many times, it’s really not personal (unless it’s your momma – then you’d better listen!). Some people live to stir the pot and you don’t need that in your life. Facebook is a valuable social networking site that brings you into contact with people from all over the world who you would normally never have an opportunity to meet. It can also be a clever disguise form anyone to present themselves as what you want to see but in fact, have nothing but bad intentions. Be careful. Unless you know the person in reality (yes, much of Facebook is not real!), then be careful. Again, know your audience. Get personal only with those you trust completely. Read your posts before you hit enter and try to never type from emotion. Think!
If you’re a drama queen and go for that stuff, go for it! Personally, I haven’t got time for it. I have a supportive family, good job and friends, books to write, and can live without the drama.
Just be careful and always remember – delete, block and the power button all exist for a reason. If it gets to be too much, power down, curl up with a good book, and drink some hot chocolate. You’ll feel better for it.
I am the proud author of Resurrection, a military M/M romance that deals with love, loss, and the aftermath of the war. It is available now through Amazon – (http://smarturl.it/ijekrp).
Jamie couldn’t get the door closed fast enough as he sagged against it to the floor as the sounds of the helicopters took over. He seized his head between his fists as the mortar rounds and the gunfire erupted in his brain. He squeezed his eyes shut as his entire sensory system was taken over by the battle that lived in his head.
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